Marriage and the Law

Marriage is a legal, as well as a spiritual partnership. Before Marriage was recognized by the church as a 'sacrament' by the Council of Florence in 1208, it was already, for millennia, a legal status - a civil (legal) union between a two people establishing a family - and recognizing the rights and privileges of two people, in a marriage, to share property, to live exclusively as partners, and to raise children together.

Marriage is governed by state law, and each state has slightly different requirements for contracting a marriage. Common to all states is the requirement that, to enter into a legal marriage, the couple must obtain a Marriage License, and must exchange vows in some formula that indicates that the couple intends to 'take' each other as husband and wife.

What follows is a summary of the Marriage and Civil Union laws of the states of NY, CT, and NJ. If you are planning to marry elsewhere, it is important that you check the law of the state where you intend to marry, and obtain a license from it.